First dates
What makes a first date less overwhelming for you?
Sensory environment, structure, duration, knowing the plan in advance, we are polling the community on what actually reduces first-date anxiety.
Direct from the community
Spectrum Singles Member Polls and Survey Results
What do autistic and neurodivergent adults actually think about disclosure, first dates, communication, and relationships? We ask the community and publish the results. No sanitised PR answers.
Poll results
Disclosure
Do you disclose your autism on a first date?
Most autistic adults have thought carefully about when and how to tell a potential partner. Our community weighed in, and the answers reveal a clear pattern.
Communication
How long do you usually take to reply to a dating app message?
Does response time carry the same social weight for autistic daters as it does in mainstream dating culture? We are asking.
How the polls work
Community polls run in the Spectrum Singles app for members to participate in. Results are published here with breakdowns by question. Poll data is anonymous and aggregated, no individual responses are identifiable.
We run polls on topics that come up repeatedly in the community: disclosure timing, first-date anxiety, masking, how autistic and neurotypical partners navigate differences. The goal is to give autistic adults data about what others in the same position are doing, not to tell anyone what they should do.